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When Dad Keeps Asking About Your Mother Who Passed Years Ago, What Do You Tell Him?

Your mother passed away years ago. Your father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and is having an extremely difficult time as of late. He keeps asking about her, wanting to see her, and wondering when she’ll be home. At first, the pain of having to relive those moments was hurtful but you told him the truth. It almost seemed cruel to keep doing this but wonder about the wisdom of telling him lies.

Alzheimer’s is a disease that affects the brain.

It can affect memory first. In fact, memory loss is one of the earliest signs and symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease. It usually affects a person’s ability to maintain their daily life and routine. They might use the wrong words at times, have trouble keeping track of conversations, miss appointments, and more.

As the disease progresses, it can cause an individual to forget where they are, what year it is, or major events that have already taken place. When your father asks about your mother you want to protect him as best you can.

It’s not the worst thing to tell a little lie.

When it comes to dementia, including Alzheimer’s, a lie can offer a sense of peace and comfort, even a distraction. Advocates promote telling the truth in all circumstances. Although great advice for most men and women it is important to know how Alzheimer’s affects the brain how people process information, and whether a little lie could be beneficial at providing comfort or a sense of peace. This is where things can become complicated.

Some advocates believe that redirection, little white lies, or half-truths can provide a sense of comfort for those diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or other types of dementia. Each person should analyze and make this determination on their own. Is it wrong either way? No.

The important question is, what could provide comfort and improve quality of life for seniors diagnosed with Alzheimer’s who have questions, time dysplasia, or confusion.

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Kyle Laramie

President?Owner at Veterans Care Coordination
After working in the field of occupational therapy, as well as various marketing, sales and management roles for both private duty nursing and assisted living providers, Kyle founded Veterans Care Coordination in April 2011. As president and owner of VCC, Kyle is driven by the memory of his grandfather. A World War ll veteran, he unnecessarily missed out on essential VA benefits because Kyle's family simply did not know about the opportunities that were available to assist him in his golden years.

Under Kyle's leadership, Veterans Care Coordination has become one of the fastest growing senior service companies in the United States. Partnering with health care providers throughout the U.S., VCC serves more than 1000 clients in 45 states. The company currently employs more than 65 professionals.

In January 2014, Kyle was named to the St. Louis Business Journal's prestigious "40 Under 40" list. The St. Louis Small Business Monthly also named him as one of the "100 St. Louisans to Know" in 2014. In 2015, Kyle was selected as one of ten national finalists for the 2015 Glenn Shepard Leadership Award. In addition, in September 2013 Veterans Care Coordination was honored by the St. Louis Small Business Monthly as one of the "Top 20" small businesses in the St. Louis area, in 2014 the company was honored as a finalist for Arcus Awards and by the St. Louis Post Dispatch for being a Top Workplace.

Kyle is an accredited claims agent by the Department of Veterans Affairs. He is a frequent speaker on the topic of veterans' benefits, addressing conferences such as the Home Care Association of America and the Northeast Home Care Conference. Kyle currently serves on the Board of Directors of the Mid-East Area Agency on Aging and has been previously involved with the St. Louis Chapter of the Alzheimer's Association. He resides in Lake St. Louis, MO with his wife and twin boys. In his spare time, Kyle is an avid tennis player.

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