When you’ve been married for 30, 40, or even 50 years, you have been through a lot together. It may feel as though there’s nothing that can tear you apart, nothing you can’t handle together, but with time and age, increasing health and physical challenges can cause a great deal of stress. As a caregiver for an elderly spouse, life can become extremely complicated, frustrating, and stressful.
Sometimes, you just might ‘lose it.’
This means you could snap at this person you care about more than anything in the world. You could yell at them, call them names, and possibly even become abusive, all the result of extreme and prolonged stress and anxiety as their caregiver.
Believe it or not, you are not alone in this situation.
There are an estimated 44 million people in the United States taking care of elderly and disabled family members. Most of them are either spouses or adult children who have a number of other responsibilities to take care of. These men and women undergo a lot of stress and anxiety just worrying about the safety and well-being of this individual, let alone having to be concerned with the relationship itself.
When these stressful moments become compounded, home care is an option.
It may seem impractical to even think about hiring a home care aide from an agency because you are there for this person. You took your vows seriously to be there in sickness and in health, through good times and bad. How could you possibly turn your back on them now?
It is not turning your back on this person.
When you reach the point of frustration, extreme anxiety, when yelling at each other is the norm rather than the exception, it’s time to think things through in a more rational, unbiased manner. All of this stress as a caregiver is going to impact your relationship, usually in a negative way. Instead of allowing that to continue, all because you feel this is your responsibility, look into home care options.
An experienced home care aide doesn’t have to take over completely.
Through an agency, flexibility is key. You can hire somebody for just a couple of hours at a time to start. Eventually, as is the case with most people who turn to home care support services, you may realize how beneficial this is, not just for the person in your life you care about more than anything, but also yourself. You could end up returning to some of the things you had given up to take care of your spouse.