“What’s the point of them refusing help?” This might be something you’ve been thinking lately about your mother or father. You know they’re not safe. They keep calling you to do things around the house for them, but you just don’t have the time or energy to keep doing this. Then, on top of all this, maybe somebody you care about was recently hospitalized and even though their doctor admonished them to get the right support at home, they continue to refuse.
Is there anything you can do about it?
If somebody should be getting help at home, especially following a major medical emergency, surgery, or injuries, but yet they keep trying to do things on their own, they are actually increasing the chances of having complications or some other issue arise where they have to return to the hospital.
That would technically count as a hospital readmission in many cases, at least if it happens within 30 days of discharge. While you and other people in your family aren’t really thinking much about this, how can you encourage or convince this person to at least accept help, at least from somebody other than yourself.
It’s not that you don’t want to provide them support.
You just don’t have that kind of time. You know they’re going to need somebody to help them get out of bed in the morning. You have to get to work. You know you’re going to have challenges throughout the day. You’ll be at work.
There’s just no one else you can even think about asking.
Many people refuse help because they worry about the consequences.
They somehow think, incorrectly so, that relying on a home care aide or other services like that means giving up their independence. People are often very defensive about autonomy, especially as they age and begin struggling with their own basic care.
The first thing you might consider doing is assuring them they still maintain control of their life. If you can convince them that this has nothing to do with autonomy, independence, or anything else related to their personal rights, they may listen.
You can also talk about the activities they can’t wait to get back to.
If they hear about those things, if they’re reminded about the things they love to do, and are convinced that will happen, as long as they do what’s necessary for their recovery, they may just start listening and that can make all the difference in the world.
IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED ONE ARE CONSIDERING IN-HOME ELDERLY CARE IN SUMMERLIN, NV, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT GOLDEN HEART SENIOR CARE. CALL TODAY 702-800-4616.
Christy has a M.A. degree in Psychology and has worked helping families for over 25 years. She has worked in various settings including social service agencies, nursing homes and schools. Christy's ultimate professional goal is to use her talents and experience to make a difference in the lives of others.
Several years ago Christy's dad started showing signs of Dementia and Parkinson’s disease. Her family was faced with emotionally challenging decisions and she realized how difficult this situation can be for families. Christy wanted to use her personal experience to support others who are in the process of taking care of their elderly loved ones.
Christy has developed an exceptional support program for those providing care for elderly family members. Educational information and emotional support is available to help families cope with the stress and physical demands of caring for senior loved ones. It is Christy's philosophy that each stage of life is precious and individuals of all ages need to be treated with the utmost respect and dignity.
Christy seeks out Golden Heart team members who demonstrate a nurturing, respectful and professional demeanor.Christy truly appreciates the caregivers who work for Golden Heart and provides them with exceptional educational, emotional and professional support.
Christy is honored to be supporting the families of the Las Vegas valley.
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