Making changes to a house can be necessary for any number of reasons. A lot of people, when they first purchase a home, might want to change the carpeting, colors on the walls, wallpaper, and even the window treatments. For seniors, home modifications may be necessary as a way to improve safety, especially as they begin having difficulties getting around, walking up and down stairs, or staying safe in their own environment.
Some people don’t want to hear about this.
As people get older it’s often a difficult challenge to admit to one’s own limitations. Some believe that when they start asking for help or letting family know they are struggling with certain things it’s a sign of old age or that they will lose some level of independence.
Even conversations about home improvements can be easily dismissed.
If an adult child, for example, is talking to his or her father about possibly installing grab bars in the shower or tub surround for safety, he might not want to hear that. Even though he may feel uncomfortable at times getting into and out of the shower, he doesn’t want to admit that to them.
So how can we help some seniors understand the value of these home modifications?
One of the most important things in any conversation or form of communication is to listen. As people get older and begin showing signs of age, limited mobility, a loss of strength, or some other challenges, their loved ones may gather around or even swarm around them as a protective measure. They want their loved one to be safe, but while they are focused on safety, the senior can feel as though he or she is being pushed down and their desires for activity or other areas of interest suddenly take a back seat.
It’s important to be willing to listen.
If a person knows their loved one is actually hearing them, if they are convinced that what they say matters, they are far more likely to actually pay attention to the recommendations of those family members or friends.
Telling an elderly loved one something to the effect of, “Dad, I understand you may have a difficult time with your legs because of the arthritis or injury or a bit of weakness, and that’s okay, but is there anything you can think of that would help you feel more comfortable and confident living at home?”
Something like this shows the senior their loved one actually cares about their safety while also caring about their independence.
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