Your elderly mother has been calling you for help more and more frequently. You want to be there for her, so you never think twice about going over there to assist her, either to get something from the store, to do laundry, clean the house, get something down from the attic or up from the basement, or anything else. You certainly haven’t thought of home care options for her, but what you need to evaluate is whether or not she is actually benefiting from your support or if she is still at risk.
How can we take an honest assessment of the situation?
One of the best things is to have a conversation with her. Sit down and explain your concerns, your observations, and even the challenges you may face in providing this care and support for her. Do you work a full-time job? Are you struggling with a part-time job? Do you have other responsibilities that go on throughout the day? Does she even know about these?
Your mother may assume you have the time to help her and she may even dramatically underestimate just how much assistance and support she requires.
If that’s happening right now, it could lead to problems.
One of the biggest problems people can face when a loved one requires assistance is either to underestimate just how much care and support they need or overestimating their own ability to provide that level of care.
If your mother is living alone, how often are you able to stop by and help her? When you are not there with her, does she try to do certain things on her own? Is she trying to push herself beyond what’s safe just so she doesn’t have to lean on you constantly?
If these things are happening, you need to know about them. If you discover that this is actually going on, it is time to look into other options, especially home care support.
Home care can be hired for just a couple of hours at a time.
Unfortunately, many people assume home care needs to be hired for full-time support. When you hire through an agency, they have many flexible hours and caregivers who can provide assistance for your mother for a couple of hours at a time, and not even every day, if that’s not necessary.
Ultimately, safety comes first, but maintaining a high quality of life is just as important for seniors who may be relying on their loved ones for assistance right now. That can be provided by an experienced home care aide.
Angel Alliance Caregivers of Galloway, NJ is dedicated to helping seniors maintain full, independent lives where they most desire to live: in the comfort of their own homes. Call us at (609) 965-0028.