It was late at night when Cheryl was finally making her way home. She couldn’t tell you the time, but she knew it was well after 11 o’clock in the evening. She was exhausted. Her day started at five in the morning as she got up to get ready for work, helped her kids off to school, and then stopped by her mother’s house. Cheryl was a family caregiver and was dealing with a tremendous amount of stress, even though she wasn’t acknowledging it properly.
When she finally would get home, there was just enough time for her to take a shower, get changed, and crawl into bed. Her spouse was sound asleep, they hadn’t really had much of a conversation in months, and hadn’t gone on a date in a long, long time.
Her kids sometimes felt they didn’t know she was around.
Most of the time that she was at home she was distracted. She was worried about her mother. She kept thinking about worst-case scenarios. She constantly called to check in on her mother, ultimately stopping by more and more frequently, leaving less and less time for herself.
She had friends who had given up calling.
She didn’t understand the significant impact this job was having on her marriage, and she didn’t pay attention to the fact her friends had stopped calling and leaving messages some time ago. They used to get together frequently, but without returning their calls, they eventually gave up.
Cheryl started to feel lonely.
Even though she was constantly surrounded by people, her children, her spouse, her coworkers, her mother, and so on, she felt lonely. She tried to talk things over with her husband, but he seemed distant. She tried to call a few of friends up, but they never returned her call.
This feeling of loneliness that Cheryl was experiencing is not all uncommon to caregivers. The more support and elderly family member requires, the more time that caregiver devotes to them. This basically pushes everyone else out of their life, even though it’s not deliberate.
Cheryl had to come to the realization that she had pushed everyone away without intending to. In her desire to support her mother, which she felt was her responsibility, she had cast everything else in her life aside. When she finally realized that, she started talking about home care support through an agency and fortunately her mother agreed that would be the best option now.
IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED ONE ARE CONSIDERING IN-HOME SENIOR CARE IN SUMMERLIN, NV, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT GOLDEN HEART SENIOR CARE. CALL TODAY 702-800-4616.
Christy has a M.A. degree in Psychology and has worked helping families for over 25 years. She has worked in various settings including social service agencies, nursing homes and schools. Christy's ultimate professional goal is to use her talents and experience to make a difference in the lives of others.
Several years ago Christy's dad started showing signs of Dementia and Parkinson’s disease. Her family was faced with emotionally challenging decisions and she realized how difficult this situation can be for families. Christy wanted to use her personal experience to support others who are in the process of taking care of their elderly loved ones.
Christy has developed an exceptional support program for those providing care for elderly family members. Educational information and emotional support is available to help families cope with the stress and physical demands of caring for senior loved ones. It is Christy's philosophy that each stage of life is precious and individuals of all ages need to be treated with the utmost respect and dignity.
Christy seeks out Golden Heart team members who demonstrate a nurturing, respectful and professional demeanor.Christy truly appreciates the caregivers who work for Golden Heart and provides them with exceptional educational, emotional and professional support.
Christy is honored to be supporting the families of the Las Vegas valley.
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