It’s no secret your mother wants you to take care of her. Maybe you’ve been helping her out for quite some time. Lately, though, she has required more and more help. She might be dealing with the natural process of aging and is losing strength and mobility or she has undergone major surgery or faced a serious health issue recently that caused her to be hospitalized. While you want to honor her wishes and be her caregiver as best you can, the stress is starting to take a toll on you.
It’s starting to affect every aspect of your life.
Many people dramatically underestimate just how much stress they’re going to feel taking care of an elderly or disabled family member. They think it’s going to be an easy job. After all, what is there to do? You said you would stop by, maybe every day, maybe every other day, help her with the laundry, do some light housekeeping, and possibly even prepare a few meals. She might need a ride to and from a doctor’s appointment or to the store every once in a while as well.
Eventually, though, things are going to change.
When people begin receiving assistance and, as an ancillary benefit, companionship, they will call on that help more and more frequently as the years progress.
You have the right to take care of yourself.
Just because your mother needs help doesn’t mean you have to give up on your own life. There may be a number of things you’ve given up, such as spending time with friends, going to the gym to exercise, eating healthy, and more.
You need to take care of yourself.
This is something that should really be put on the back burner. If you don’t take better care of yourself, you won’t be in the kind of position you’d like to be help her in the future. She is not without support.
This is a common misconception far too many people have: assuming if their family doesn’t help them they will be left to their own devices. In reality, home care support services are available all across the country.
Hiring a home care aide can provide the support your mother needs giving you the time you deserve to take better care of yourself. Sit down and talk to her about the prospect of hiring home care support services. You may realize how beneficial this can be for both of you.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in North York, Canada, contact the caring professionals at Staff Relief Health Care 24/7 at 905.709.1767.
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