Your mother and father are in their 80s. Up until this point in time they were doing fairly well. Sure, they had certain health issues to contend with, but they basically took care of one another. Now, though, things are changing and you have become their primary caregiver.
Your mother and father both need assistance.
Your father may have recently been hospitalized due to a heart attack or some other medical emergency. Your mother may be coping with pneumonia or some other health issue. Whatever the case may be, they both need help right now.
As a family caregiver, you are essentially taking care of two adults. This is going to exacerbate the stress you will feel already. Taking care of one parent is going to be a stressful situation for most individuals, whether you work a full-time job or not. Taking care of both of your parents at the same time can actually double your stress or even triple it.
Your time is limited.
As a person who works or not, your time is still limited. If you have a full-time job, a part-time job, or you do certain volunteer work in the community, you don’t have all day to devote to your parents. Even if you are not working, you probably have certain things you enjoy doing. You might be pursuing art, exercising, spending time with some of your friends, and more. Those things are fine and they don’t need to be left behind just because elderly parents require assistance.
You need to acknowledge your limitations.
The moment you don’t acknowledge your own limitations is the moment stress begins to take over your life. You start pushing yourself too far. You begin giving up exercise, eating healthy, and doing things that help you relax.
You find yourself getting home later and later in the evening, probably having difficulty falling asleep, and waking up numerous times throughout the night. You will eventually find yourself worrying about your parents when you’re not there.
What if your father can’t get up from the chair? Is your mother really going to try to help him? What if your mother is coughing too hard and your father is tempted to give her an over-the-counter cough suppressant? That’s not going to help her because that cough is being productive.
All of these things you worry about are going to increase stress as a caregiver. When you’re taking care of both parents, you really need to consider help. The best help comes in the form of a home care aide.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Toronto, Canada, contact the caring professionals at Staff Relief Health Care 24/7 at 905.709.1767.
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