The moment you begin taking care of your elderly father is the moment you may feel you have to give up certain things. Some of these could be rights of yours. Some of them could be activities, points of interest, or hobbies. As a family caregiver, stress is going to be a part of your life. You need to address that as openly and honestly as you can.
Below are some rights you may have already given up in order to take care of your elderly father, even though you didn’t notice them being stripped away from you.
1. Your own time.
Everyone has their own personal time. Even if you’re working two jobs to make ends meet, you will have time to yourself. Or, at least you once did. When you begin taking care of your father, have you given up that free time?
You might have had a gym membership and were in the habit of going every day, but you haven’t been back there in weeks. Perhaps you use to spend time with your friends at lunch or in the evening once or twice a week. You haven’t done that in weeks or months, either.
You have the right to your own time, but the more support your father needs, the more likely you simply give up those other things that used to be important to you.
2. To cook and clean for yourself.
You have the right to maintain your own home environment. If you haven’t really taken some time to clean the house, prepare healthy meals for yourself and maybe your own family, or do other basic things like this because you are providing the services for your father every single day, you’ve given up far too much.
We need to be able to take care of ourselves as well as those who rely on us.
3. Spending time with friends.
As mentioned in the first point, when you give up spending time with friends, it may seem like a reasonable sacrifice, but it’s not necessary. When you understand the value of home care support services, hiring an aide or series of caregivers to help you, you will be able to have time to spend with your friends and continue living life on your own terms.
4. To just say ‘no.’
When was the last time you told your father or somebody else in your life ‘no?’ You have the right to say no to being a family caregiver. Just because you live in the same town or close enough that it makes sense to help him out doesn’t mean you have to become his de facto caregiver. You have the right to say no and that won’t affect him because he can still rely on home care support services.
If you or an aging loved one are considering professional home care services in Germantown TN please contact the caring staff at Personal Care Services MidSouth, LLC. Call today! 901-443-1191.
Walter has spent the last five years building PCS MidSouth into a premier Home Care Agency.With three locations in the MidSouth providing services to clients in three states: Tennessee, Mississippi, and Alabama.The company is poise for growth and is expecting to expand its territory in the MidSouth.
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