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One Daughter Coming Home for Holidays not knowing what to expect from her dad since he has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.

The Holiday Visit with an Alzheimer’s Patient, and Providing Optimal Care in Mobile, AL

Tina hadn’t seen her 72-year-old father in more than a year. The holiday season was often the only chance she got to visit with him. Since he had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s three years earlier, Tina kept trying to make time to fly out and visit him, but with her work demands and other responsibilities it became almost impossible.

She was looking forward to this visit, but didn’t know what to expect. Speaking to her mother on a regular basis she had an idea about how her father was doing. In the past several months her mother kept talking about issues arising with his behavior, harsh things he was saying, and even a violent outburst that occurred a few weeks earlier.

When Tina arrived at her parents’ house, she was surprised at how frail her father looked. He seemed genuinely pleased to see her, but there was a subdued nature about him, as though he were waiting for the next moment when he wouldn’t recognize his own daughter.

Tina was going to be staying with her parents for four weeks over the holiday season, so she was going to support her mother to help provide the best Alzheimer’s care they could for their father during this usually festive time of the season.

First Lessons

Tina had no real direct experience with Alzheimer’s disease, aside from the few visits she had with her father in the past. He was in the more advanced stages of the disease now and his behavior had become erratic. Tina quickly learned he could be fine one moment and then confused, angry, and potentially even violent the next, throwing things, kicking a chair over, or just saying some nasty things to her or her mother.

Fortunately, those moments were few and far between, but because they were happening, Tina sat down with her mother and began to talk about the prospect of hiring a professional Alzheimer’s caregiver so their father could get the optimal level of care he needed.

Making the Decision

This wasn’t something her mother was willing to decide yet, but Tina had been reading a lot more about Alzheimer’s care on her own. She managed to convince her mother that hiring a professional caregiver would be the best thing for her and for him.

Once her mother agreed, they sat down with her father and talked about it. He agreed that he didn’t want his wife devoting all of her time and energy to caring for him and throughout the rest of the holiday season, everybody seemed more relaxed and comfortable, even her father. With an experienced Alzheimer’s care provider, he seemed to calm down quicker, be more comfortable and at ease, and this had a direct impact on the rest of them as well.

If you or an aging loved one are considering Alzheimer’s Home Care or Assisted Living, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living in Mobile, AL at 251-317-3017.

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Cindy Johnson

Owner at Ashbury Manor
Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.

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